A Lesson in Confidence
There she was again, strolling through the room, looking so sophisticated, so confident. She wasn’t gorgeous, tall, or super-skinny. She wasn’t dressed in expensive clothes, and she didn’t seem snotty. Yet she had an aura about her that made her appear to be the height of self-confidence. I envied her ability to carry herself with pride, to make eye contact with everyone, and to hold her head high. She seemed so sure of who she was, unlike me. I was self-doubting and shy; I lacked confidence.
I sought the Lord, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears. Those who look to him are radiant.
Psalm 34:4-5a (NIV)
As it turned out, she and I were in the same classes that year. We began talking and became good friends. During our time together, she taught me some important lessons about confidence. She taught me that popularity doesn’t matter and that I should be confidence around everyone, not just my close friends. The most important lesson she taught me was this: “Be true to yourself.” That was my friend’s life motto and the root of her confidence. Rising above the pressure to fit in or to be cool, she knew who she was; and she refused to let anyone change that.
To this day, I treasure my friendship with her. I believe that God placed her in my life for a reason. My friend has helped me to become more confident; but most important, she has taught me to be true to myself.
REFLECT ON PROVERBS 3:26a (NRSV): “For the Lord will be your confidence.” Who has helped you to gain self-confidence? When has God been your confidence?
—from devozine (September/October 2003). Copyright © 2003 by The Upper Room®. All rights reserved.