Dare to Be Bold
To have a friend you have to be a friend—and sometimes you have to be bold.
Say “Yes” to the Invitation
I met Tiffany on the school bus the first day of middle school. She asked if she could sit beside me; and in my head, I heard a voice telling me, “Say yes.” After a few days, Tiffany and I were talking as if we had known each other for years. I believe the voice in my head was God; and I am thankful for God’s encouragement because while Tiffany has been my friend, I have discovered the real me. If you see someone who looks lonely or stands apart from the other kids, listen to God. Who knows? You may discover a best friend for life.
—Kaci Pitsenbarger, 14
Befriend the New Kid
When I was in sixth grade, a new kid came to my school and I decided to try to make her feel welcome. I helped her find her classrooms and catch up on schoolwork; I introduced her to people and sat with her at lunch. She is a great friend. We go to youth group and study the Bible together. We ask each other for advice about problems. We pray together and encourage each other to live out our faith. As I grow in my relationship with God, I am also growing a great spiritual friendship here on earth.
—Jennifer Wells, 14
Take Risks to Get to Know Someone
“Hello, is this Becky?” asked an unfamiliar voice. “This is Victoria. I’m new here. You mentioned in English class that you like poetry, and I found a poem I thought you might enjoy. Want to hear it?”
At first, I thought Victoria was weird to call and read me a poem. Then I thought how brave she was to reach out to someone she didn’t know in an effort to make a friend.
“It’s nice of you to think of me,” I said.
“Would you like to come to my house? I’ve made some popcorn, and we could watch a movie.”
God calls us to be bold. Victoria responded to God’s prompting by phoning me, and we’ve been friends ever since.
Invite God into Your Friendships
When I started middle school I was the new girl. My family had moved to a new town, and I missed my home and my friends. Lonely and sad, I wrote a letter to God asking for a best friend. A few months later, I left my purse on the school bus. Jordan picked it up, returned it to me the next morning, and invited me to sit with her, handing me one of her ear buds so we could listen to her iPod together. The rest is history.
Jordan and I have been best friends for ten years now. But she has become more than a best friend—she’s also a sister-in-Christ. During our freshman year of college, we both made a commitment to follow Jesus, which has completely changed our lives; and through it all we’ve had each other to lean on. When we met in middle school, I wanted a best friend to have sleepovers with, but God had so much more in mind.
—Katy Steele, 23
Be Bold Enough to Say Thank You
I love you for the way you are both strong and kind;
for laughing and crying, feeling life from deep down inside;
for sometimes being distant but never too far;
for searching for and bringing out the best in me;
for your openness, honesty, and love of simple things;
for looking into my heart and touching my innermost thoughts;
for the trust I can place in you;
for the understanding and encouragement I find in you;
for the joy you bring into my life.
You are a treasure, and I will always cherish you, my best friend.
—Jessica Bino, 15
Photo Credits: Photo (top) of Tiffany and Kaci (right) courtesy of Kaci Pitsenbarger; Photo of Katy (left) and Jordan courtesy of Katy Steele
—from devozine (July/August 2015). Copyright © 2015 by The Upper Room®. All rights reserved.