Building Confidence

Jackie Clark & Jim Still-Pepper

Imagine that you are doing especially well in one of your classes. Without studying, you are getting an A on all the tests and homework. Today your teacher says that because you are doing so well, he would like to transfer you to a more challenging class. The new class would require you to work hard, and you might not end up with an A for the year. What a hard choice! In the new class, you would learn something new and important, but you like having an easy A.

building tools FTR iStock-000072218175-Large copyAs part of making the decision whether you would stay in your current class or move to the new class, role play with an adult or a trusted friend a conversation in which you discuss these questions:

> What is a comfort zone?
How easy or hard is it for you to get out of your comfort zone?
What would happen in our lives if we never left our comfort zones?
Are you too comfortable in life? Why? Why not?
Do you need to be challenged?
Do you sometimes decide to disregard the suggestions of adults because what they are asking you to do seems too hard?

Building confidence is hard work and involves risk. It requires choosing to move out of your comfort zone and doing something that may feel uncomfortable. The payoff is that you will gain confidence.

How to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

What areas of your life are too comfortable? These questions will help you begin to see areas of your life in which you need to grow or to build confidence.

  • What breaks your heart? If something in the world breaks your heart but you haven’t done anything about it, perhaps you are afraid of being uncomfortable. What small things can you do that would require you to get out of your comfort zone?
  • When have you said no to another person’s request because you were afraid to say yes? Maybe you can say yes to a less challenging request and work your way up to saying yes to the original request.
  • What is something you have always wanted to do? What are possible small steps toward reaching that goal?

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Building confidence is kind of like building muscles. If you do too much you may be so sore that you can’t move for a week. If you never use them, they get smaller and weaker. The key is consistency, pushing them enough without being too sore. To build confidence, start with small steps and work your way up to a bigger challenge.



Make a list of what brings you comfort. Then answer this question: Why do you like comfort? Throughout the day today, read the ten chapters of Esther, a story about a young woman stepping out of her comfort zone. Later tonight or in the morning, write about how God is calling you out of your comfort zone. Will you take the risk?

Jackie Clark & Jim Still-Pepper — Jackie is a counselor who has recently gotten out of her comfort zone by moving to a new state. Jim loves the comfort of family and friends but is learning to take risks in order to help others.

—from devozine (September/October 2015). Copyright © 2015 by The Upper Room®. All rights reserved.

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