Spiritual Practice


Kate Underwood

He wasn’t listening to me. He wasn’t communicating in a kind way. He was throwing his opinion in my face as if it were absolute truth, ignoring my attempts to explain my position.

In the midst of this disagreement, I felt utterly disrespected. I thought I was being clear and diplomatic, offering a positive solution; but my colleague’s responses were negative and hurtful. I did what I thought was best: I held firm to my convictions and continued to stand up for myself. Eventually, our disagreement was resolved; and once again we have a good working relationship.

For your ways are in full view of the Lord, and he examines all your paths.
Proverbs 5:21 (NIV)

Can I say for certain that I was completely in the right? I’m not sure. I still believe that I did nothing wrong, but I know he might see things differently. He may not have realized how hurtful his words were.

As a Christian, the way I respond to people who show me disrespect says a lot about my faith. In this case, I tried to remain firm while respecting my colleague’s perspective. Finding a balance between sticking to our beliefs and giving proper respect to others is a challenge, but it’s important. What good is it to be right and then use that against someone in an unkind way?


PRAYER: God, give us grace to disagree without being disrespectful. Amen.

—from devozine (May/June 2015). Copyright © 2015 by The Upper Room®. All rights reserved.

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