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BEING A FRIEND

Sierra Klotz & Dave Hagemann

During my sophomore year, a friend asked me if he would die if he jumped out the window. Another friend showed me scars that she had etched into her arm, blaming them on her dog. A third friend admitted to cutting and talked to me about her feelings. Though I was happy to help my friends, seeing them go through the pain I had experienced a few years earlier was difficult. Hoping to help, I talked with them, I invited them to talk about their deepest struggles, I listened, and every day I prayed for restoration in their lives. Jesus saved them, as he did me; and I’m grateful that all of them are doing much better.

Bear one another’s burdens.
Galatians 6:2a (NRSV)

Suicide is difficult to talk about. You don’t want to trigger a suicide attempt, and yet you want people to get the help they need. Talking about suicide may be tough, but you could end up saving a life or at least helping someone set out on the path to recovery.

—Sierra Klotz, 19

 

REFLECT: Talking about suicide isn’t easy. If friends tell you they are thinking of suicide, you need to be careful. Be supportive, but also try to be sensitive to their needs. Not everyone wants a hug or a pick-me-up. Contacting an adult you trust is key. Being the friend who cares enough to look for help is always better than being the friend who doesn’t seek help because you are afraid of being lame.

—Dave Hagemann, 19

—from devozine (January/February 2015). Copyright © 2014 by The Upper Room®. All rights reserved.

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