Spiritual Practice


Niki DiGaetano & Chelsey Smith

Being a tomboy myself, I’ve never understood why people make a big deal out of girls and guys being friends. Some people like to tease by declaring that a guy and a girl are destined for marriage or something similar, as if you can’t enjoy the company of an opposite sex friend without the relationship turning into a romantic affair. While being friends doesn’t lessen physical attraction, you don’t have to act on those feelings. Whether you’re a girl or a guy, being friends is a lot easier if you look at others the way God created them and ignore the romantic thoughts, peer pressure, and stereotypes.

—Niki DiGaetano, 17


There is no longer male and female; for all of you are one in Christ Jesus.
Galatians 3:28c (NRSV)

REFLECT: It’s amazing! God created males and females to be different, physically and emotionally; yet we’re drawn to people of the opposite sex. God did this for good reasons. Trying to figure out the opposite gender is part of what makes growing up, love, and life in general so interesting. Just because we don’t always understand why girls do this and guys do that doesn’t mean we should avoid one another. Instead, let’s set aside our differences and form friendships with our brothers and sisters in Christ.

—Chelsey Smith, 16

—from devozine (May/June 2013). Copyright © 2013 by The Upper Room®. All rights reserved.

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