Spiritual Practice


Erin Burke, 24

Sometimes being fake seems harmless. We are trying to put on a good face. We are trying to make sure other people know we have it all together.

However, being fake gets in the way of meaningful friendships. I am learning that vulnerability is an integral part of friendship. Being genuine allows our friends to see and understand the deepest parts of who we are. We have to be willing to accept and understand their inner selves too. Knowing and still supporting one another is a sign of true friendship.

Some friends play at friendship but a true friend sticks closer than one’s nearest kin.
Proverbs 18:24 (NRSV)

Being fake may encourage other people to like the person we appear to be on the outside. It may make us feel good about the way the world perceives us. But being fake also leads to friendships that lack honesty and depth. Thus, when we are hurting, we may not have genuine friends to turn to for support.


Exposing our true selves isn’t easy, but being honest and sincere helps our relationships become authentic and trustworthy.


REFLECT: In what ways can you be more sincere with your friends? How can you be more supportive of your friends when they are honest with you?

—from devozine (January/February 2013). Copyright © 2012 by The Upper Room®. All rights reserved.

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