Spiritual Practice

Opposite Sex Friendships

David McCoy

Boyfriends and girlfriends come and go. Sure, they have an impact on our lives—breaking our hearts or building them up, increasing or depleting our confidence, perhaps saying “I love you” when they mean “I don’t know what love is.” When these romantic relationships end, we fall back on our friends and on God, knowing they will be there for us and will support us as we wait for another relationship to come along.


A friend loves at all times.
Proverbs 17:17a (NRSV)

A friendship between a guy and a girl, however, is something special. Unlike hanging out with your bros or besties, there’s no pressure to conform to an “acceptable” image. Your friend doesn’t require that you be ultra masculine or feminine and doesn’t expect any romance. Having a close friend of the opposite sex is both weird and awesome, allowing you to feel free to say what’s on your mind without fear of being judged, ditched, or laughed at. And if God is in the mix, the friendship only gets better because you can lift each other up spiritually and develop a more powerful relationship.


EXAMINE YOUR FRIENDSHIPS: Are there people of the opposite sex who are or who may become close friends of yours? Maybe some are people you used to date and with whom you promised to remain friends. What do (could) these friendships offer you? What challenges do (would) they require you to face? Will you invite God to lead and to be involved in your friendships? Pray that all your friendships might be lived to the fullest and filled with the love of God.

—from devozine (July/August 2012). Copyright © 2012 by The Upper Room®. All rights reserved.

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